So I have reached my final milestone that I wanted to achieve during this pregnancy!!!! I now have a full term baby (37 weeks is considered full term). Now while this may not seem like a big deal, it is for me as its something I have worried about during this pregnancy and now that I have been passed this important stage I feel so many emotions- relief, happiness and worry just to name a few.
I'm excited as I know my baby boy is mostly developed so I don't have to worry about any possible hospital stays and that with him being full term , with the birth going according to plan, we will be able to take him home within a day or 2 of delivery- I'm so excited about that as I feel with Richie we missed out on the full experience as we had to wait 4 weeks til we could bring him home.
I'm also nervous about the next 3 weeks as I haven't been this far along in a pregnancy before so I feel like this is my first pregnancy! All the late 3rd trimester symptoms are all new for me so I'm complaining a lot, which Terry has been great for listening to all my whining. I have been suffering from the usual sore back, tight belly and tiredness that would normally be expected, but I didn't expect to get the swollen hands and feet(but no cankles yet!) I think these surprised me as I wasn't expecting to be this far along during the pregnancy so I didn't think about me having all this water retention.
Any suggestions on how to reduce the swelling???
(Ive even had to take my rings off as they were getting too tight on my fingers!)
Well, I've passed all of my milestones I wanted to reach, bar one.
As I have already mentioned in my previous post, I have had my baby shower this time around and have been pregnant while it occurred, but I have also gone past two more milestones since my last post.
Firstly, I have finally been able to experience maternity leave- with Richie my waters broke the morning after I finished work so I had no time to 'nest' or prepare or even just relax before he was born. So far, I have had a week of maternity leave and no baby so its been a productive week for me, doing odds and ends around the house and watching a bit of Netflix that doesn't include any kids cartoons!!
Secondly, I've been pregnant this time around for longer than when I was pregnant with Richie!! This was a huge milestone for me to get past, as it was always in the back of my mind from about 30 weeks til I hit 34 weeks that baby Sacker could come early, and now that I have passed the 34 weeks gestation I feel like I can relax that little bit more. However, with me saying that, I feel like im experiencing something new with this pregnancy, as I have never been this far along I now dont know what to expect- everything is new to me again!! Im starting to understand other women when they say they feel so uncomfortable at this stage of the pregnancy :)
My final milestone is to have a full term baby, so will have to wait and see if bub will stay in for at least another 2 and a bit weeks!!! There is a running joke with my family and friends that this time around the baby will be overdue as I have been so prepared for a premature baby last time, this time will be opposite!! I don't really know what to think about that as I'm starting to feel quite uncomfortable now so I can really imagine how I'm going to feel in 6 weeks time!!
Another few more week gone, and one step closer to baby Sacker being full term!!! Im starting to slow down now, with my back starting to ache and moving slower- and as Terry likes to remind me, Im starting to waddle :)
I had my grandfathers funeral since I wrote my last blog and I tell you what, funerals are tough enough as it is, but add pregnancy hormones(plus lack of sleep due to a pain in the bum toddler) and it is 10 times more emotional and draining!!! Luckily Terry is an amazing hubby and has been super supportive and apart from the restless nights, RIchie has been reasonably well behaved!
I also had my baby shower on the weekend just gone, and it felt amazing to celebrate baby Sacker with my family and close friends while the baby was still in my tummy- when I had my baby shower with RIchie, he was already one week old and in NICU and so my mind wasn't 100% at the baby shower, it was preoccupied with my many thoughts about my small, premature baby in hospital. The two baby showers were totally different experiences, and I'm so glad I got to experience a shower while pregnant.
Its getting to the stage of this pregnancy where I'm counting the milestones I'm reaching that I didn't manage to get to while pregnant with Richie. My first milestone was to have my baby shower while pregnant, so that's one milestone down, more to follow (hopefully!). My next milestone is to have at least one day of maternity leave- with Richie I finished work Friday afternoon and by Saturday morning he was born! This time around I finish work this Friday so will see if we reach this milestone!
I'm getting really excited about bubs arrival, I cant wait to meet him and give him cuddles!! I also cant wait to see Richie's face when he sees his baby brother- he is going to be in for a shock :)
Well, what a few weeks it has been!!! Has had a lot of ups and downs, which is really draining and tiring me out at the moment!!!
Firstly, I had my first cold of the winter(I'm pretty stoked it took til August to catch it!!), which sucks more than usual as pregnant women cant take cold and flu pills, then my hayfever has started up, so its just all sniffles and sneezing from me lately, which is super attractive!
Its also been tiring as Richie and Terry have also had the cold so my sleep at night has been affected, which equals one tired mumma!!
I also had to deal with the loss of my granddad this week, which was expected to a point as he had cancer but its always hard to say goodbye to a family member!! Now, normally I'm an emotional person at the best of times, but these pregnancy hormones are taking its toll as I feel like I'm just one sad thought away from breaking down into tears!! I can only imagine what I'm going to be like at the funeral!! Gotta love hormones :)
On the upside, Ive been to the antenatal clinic and baby Sacker is going well with a good heartrate and growing well. The midwife has said that there is no indication that this bubba will be premature so it is a waiting game- hopefully he lasts til term!!!
And Ive packed my hospital bag too- i know i will have forgotten something to pack but I think I have the essentials.
Feel free to leave any comments on what I should pack for my hospital bag- everything is appreciated!!
Another week of being pregnant, still feeling reasonably well- no major aches and pains, just getting bigger and finding it harder to sit on the floor and play with Richie.
I want to touch on another subject which affected me while RIchie was in hospital- breastfeeding.
Last week was World Breastfeeding Week and seeing all the publicity surrounding this campaign brought up a lot of memories of breastfeeding Richie while he was in NICU and HDU. I just want to say first off that I'm not one of these mothers that thinks breast is best and that formula feeding a baby is a no-go (I think most premmie mums don't really have a choice in this matter when their bub is in hospital), my motto has always been fed is best. And while I would have loved to be able to breastfeed Richie when he was born, it took my body a while to adjust to these new circumstances,
My problem was that I wasn't producing enough milk for my little man (which I think was partly because he was premature and my body wasn't ready to produce lots of milk). Once the hospital staff realised that I wasn't producing enough they sent down the lactation consultants- which I think put more pressure on me to breastfeed, which in turn made me stressed every time I went to feed him. Instead of enjoying this bonding experience with my son, I was more worried about the act of breastfeeding. There came a point about three weeks into Richie's stay in the hospital, where I just broke down in tears due to the pressure of wanting to breastfeed, and one of the nurses said the most memorable things to me- she said, don't stress about breastfeeding, if its meant to be, its meant to be. there is no shame in having a formula fed baby, and then went on to say that her last child was a formula only fed baby and she said that it was a blessing as her husband could help out a lot more with the baby. After this day, I wasn't so hard on myself for not being able to breastfeed my son adequately and tried to dismiss any unwanted pressure from other people about breastfeeding.
So when baby number 2 comes around, I will be better prepared for the pressure of breastfeeding- I will be willing to stick it out for a week or two but ultimately I also have to think about my mental and emotional health, so if it isn't meant to be this time around, I wont be stressing about it.
Anyone else have any breastfeeding stories they wish to share??(good or bad)
This last week I have been thinking a lot about the possibility of having another premature baby.
They say that there is an increased risk of having a other premature baby if you have already had one, but seeing as Richie was born at 34 weeks the risk isn't as high as if he were born earlier than 32 weeks. I think this pregnancy has been more emotionally and mentally draining because Ive had this in the back of my mind since becoming pregnant and I know what to expect this time around- first time around I was clueless!!!
As some of you know, I sometimes overthink situations (which hubby tells me I'm being silly half the time), and this is just another situation where my brain is working overtime about the 'what-ifs' that could occur during this pregnancy. What if I have another premature baby? What if he is born earlier than Richie was born? What if he has more complications from the premature birth than Richie had?? What if I have complications from the birth this time around? What if I go into labour/waters break while at work? These are just some of the questions swirling around my over-active mind!!
I think I'm also overthinking during this pregnancy as there was no medical reason why Richie came early, so I cant really be sure if this bub is going to be premature or not. Its a running joke around my friends and workmates about me going into premature labour again, but depending on the day, it kind of adds to my stress, as it is a reminder that this pregnancy could also result in another premature baby.
With all of these sort of questions swirling around, it is just going to start hounding me more until I'm at least past 34 weeks, then it will be new ground for me to worry about. At least I will be worrying about less premature baby questions and more about a full term baby.
Anyone who has had a premmie baby please feel free to give me any advice about the possibility of having another premature baby (just to reassure my if nothing else !)
Yes, I have been a bit behind in my regular blog updates, but Ive had a good reason and its just not because I'm pregnant :) We have had my in-laws in town (from England) for the last 2 weeks and we went to Sydney for a holiday with them so my mind has been in holiday mode!!
So my pregnancy update is that I'm getting bigger, and am still feeling good with energy to burn. I know this wont last so I'm making the most of it by helping hubby with stuff around the house, and getting the baby room and his stuff ready-which I'm loving as I'm digging through Richie's old clothes and blankets!! Brings back so many memories from when he was little!!! Ive said from the get go with this pregnancy that I want everything ready for bub by 30 weeks so Ive got to start moving. When Richie was born, the furniture was assembled but hadn't bought many clothes or any other bits and pieces for him and my hospital bag wasn't packed so even with my premature labour, we were definitely not ready!! But knowing my luck, I will be ready by 30 weeks and then bub will come at 40 weeks :)
I know some women don't enjoy being pregnant(which I can understand), but I'm loving this journey so far!!! I love how we are having another boy, I'm loving the changes in my body (got to love pregnancy boobs!!), I love how I can feel him dancing up a storm in my tummy and I cant wait to meet him!!!
Sorry for putting this post up later than usual this week, Ive had a bit of pregnancy brain and my mind is very scattery !!!!
So we found out that we are having another boy!!!! We are super excited about having another boy, we would have been excited either with a boy or girl so maybe we just have to keep trying for a girl :) Although I will be well a truly outnumbered in the Sacker household now!!!
You will all be glad to hear that my anxiety which I discussed in my previous blog post has disappeared this week, which has been great! I don't want to brag, but I have been feeling very good both physically and mentally this week, which I think has a lot to do with Richie not pushing my buttons.
So that's it from me for this week, I promise next week will be a more exciting post, but in the meantime, here is a pic of bubba Sacker- and to prove he is a Sacker, it looks like he is giving us the finger :
This week I'm going to talk about something which isn't easy for me to talk about, but I figure if it helps one person then its worth me putting it out there.
Anxiety. I like to think of it as depression's crazy sister. I have never suffered from depression or anxiety before in my life, but after Richie was born, I started noticing that I wasn't acting myself. I started noticing my change around 6 months after Richie was born- I was really impatient with everyone and anyone, quite emotional and snappy for no reason. After some time I decided to talk to someone about how I was feeling. I spoke with the ladies at the KEMH Psychological Medicine and they talked me through some things and diagnosed me with anxiety. It took me a while to get back to my normal self but my anxiety still rears her head up every now and then.
During this last week, I have felt my anxiety creeping back to the surface. There has been no real trigger for this; I think its just a combination of pregnancy hormones, dealing with a 2 year old with attitude, and being tired. So over this coming week, my aim is to make more time for myself ( I find taking long walks really helps with my mood and mentality), and just taking a breath before I speak or act.
My message to everyone is that if you feel like you are struggling or not your normal self, seek help. Whether its just talking to a family member or friend or professional help, it really helps.
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I have a feeling there will be numerous posts about anxiety along my pregnancy journey.
I would love to hear your stories relating to anxiety or depression, whether pregnancy related or not.
As we all know, premature baby's are usually born with some sort of physical development still in progress. With Richie the main issue was that his lungs weren't developed properly when he was born. For other premmie babys, its something else, but whatever the lack of development, all premmie baby parent's want is for their baby to catch up with kids their own age.
I was reminded about this uncertainty the other day when I was drawn to an article about a study that looked at the probability of premmie babies catching up to their full term peers come school time. I have read a few articles about how premmie baby's are usually behind the eight ball for their whole schooling life, but this article was a positive study about how the majority of premature baby's will catch up to full term kids in respect to school rediness, with only a few not catching up come school time. I found this article interesting to read , firstly, because its always interesting to read any sort of articles about premature baby development, but secondly, it reassured me that Richie should be fine with school when his time comes.
It never really crossed my mind about whether Richie would be develop mentally delayed in regards to his readiness for school as up to this stage in his life he hasn't been struggling with any development or milestones. To be honest, I was never worried about his development as the doctors at the hospital were confident that he would eventually catch up to other kids his age. Maybe that is me being a bit naïve about his prematurity and the future effects it will have on him.
I know that this doesn't really have anything to do with my current pregnancy, but I guess its another reason why I'm hoping for a full term baby this time around.
Here is the link to the study for those interested
My name is Briana and I am a wife to Terry, a mother to ,my gorgeous 2 year old son Richie with another bub on the way.